Do you raise your pinky when you drink tea?

pinky ettiquetteYou’ve probably seen it plenty of times in movies or done it yourself when playing at being prim and proper – raising your pinky in the air while drinking your afternoon tea. But according to Miss Manners, raising your pinky went out of fashion a long time ago.

According to Miss Manners:

Even that perennially easy target, the pinkie in the air, has provocative implications having to do with international commerce and class strife.

The gesture dates from the 17th century, when tea began to be imported to England from China. It was so expensive that those who could afford it kept it locked up in so-called tea caddies. They drank it from Chinese teacups, which do not have handles but are held in the fingers. Because the thin cups transmitted heat from the tea, it was sensible to put as few fingers on them as necessary — hence the escaping little finger, and sometimes the ring and middle fingers as well.

This habit became a symbol of wealth, when few people could afford tea, let alone imported cups. It quickly progressed, along a path you will recognize, to becoming a symbol of pretentiousness. At that point, the pinkie in the air — no longer necessary because the West had developed teacups with handles — became bad manners.

Miss Manners is amazed that it is still cited, now that tea is one of the least expensive possible drinks available. She would be surprised if you had ever actually seen this gesture in real life.
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I’m not sure why Miss Manners has never seen anyone raise their pinky. A simple search on Flickr shows many people raising their pinky, even though it’s most likely in jest. But why does the pinky in the air continue to be seen as something wealthy people do when we’ve obviously have had tea cups with handles for hundreds of years now and tea is readily available in every grocery store? You’d think that the practice would have been forgotten over time. What do you think, is it really a faux pas to raise your pinky? Or is it all part of enjoying your afternoon tea?

5 thoughts on “Do you raise your pinky when you drink tea?

  1. Hmm, this an interesting article, however, in my family this been a part of our etiquette “routine” for at least 3 generations. My grandfather was from Europe, I wonder if that has any bearing?

  2. I don’t think this is correct. I saw a article about royalty, and being taught proper etiquette… In the show they said the pinky out was trained so that when you set the teacup down on the plate/table you don’t make a clanky noise as it hits, so the pinky hits it first, and cushions the fall, letting you know when to softly set down the cup

  3. Unfortunately the show is incorrect. In English society, it is considered pretentious and rather uncultured to lift the pinky in the air while you drink. I have seen the suggestion that while you are placing your teacup down on your saucer you could lower your pinky to help cushion and slow the placement of the teacup onto the saucer.

  4. I just saw on a utube video last night that raising the pinky during the French Revolution days Was a signal/ warning that you had a sexually transmitted disease.
    This was stated by an English gentleman that travels the world teaching manners.
    Who shall we believe?

  5. When I was at boarding school, we were told it was not etiquette to hold your pinky out. I agree with the last post that when putting your cup down on the saucer your pinky is lowered to help cushion etc.

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